For this journal, you will all be answering it ALONE (scary, I know). But there is a small catch, respond to the question below and then return and comment/discuss with your classmates or peers (obviously there are 3 classes on this blog). Have a dialogue...Do you lie? What do you lie about? Who do you lie to? Is it human nature to lie? Is lying necessary? Explain your answer.
I don't lie that much because I feel guilty after I do it. When I do lie it's not that big of a lie. I only lie when I say I'm going to so something but I know I'm not going to do it. I usually lie to my parents. Only little lies though. I think it is human nature to lie because to get what you want you have to be untruthful. Another reason lying is natural is because you have to make people feel better about something. I think lying is necessary because like I said before you need to make people fell better by lying about something. Another reason lying is necessary is because you can protect someone from something.
ReplyDeleteDom, I disagree with what you said about in order to get things done you have to lie. There's a right way of doing things and a wrong way. Successful people don't usually lie because it's just another thing they have to worry about. They have to cover it up in order for someone to believe it. Boom
DeleteI can agree with what dom said about lying to get something done. Sometimes you are put in a position and the only way that certain thing can get done is by lying. So in Dominic's defense sometimes you have to lie to get it done.
DeleteI lie sometimes to my parents and family. I only lie about like little stuff if they ask me if I have cleaned my room I might say yes to just get out of the house away from my family. I feel like it human nature to lie sometimes because it helps makes the situation easier and more simple but lies ussually come back to haunt you because lying never helps a situation. People do it all the time though anyway.
DeleteI barely lie to people because all lying does is bring problems. The more you lie, the bigger of a hole you're digging yourself into. The only people I lie to is my parents. What I would lie to them about are things such as telling them I've washed the dishes or cleaned up my room. Those aren't big things. Those don't cause major problems that can affect your life tragically. It's human nature to lie because people it makes people more confident. People always lie about how they can dunk a basketball, cross you over, or swish shots all day, but when you play with them they aren't so good. They're all bark, but no bite. I think it's unnecessary to lie. Sure, you're making yourself sound so great, but once they see what you can really do, you just bring them down. I also have another reason why lying is unnecessary especially to fat people. Not going to lie, I used to be 225 pounds and people would say ridiculous things that hurt me and some would say that I wasn't fat. The people who said I wasn't fat made me feel better, but I would still eat a lot and I just kept getting fatter. I wasn't getting anywhere. The people who told the truth about me being fat motivated me to lose the weight. It toughened me up. It made me a better person and look at me now. Moral of the story is don't lie. I'm not saying make fun of them, but don't sugar coat it. They'll eat that too.
ReplyDeleteI agree with your last sentence. I think it's important to be honest with people but not put them down. I feel like when you tell people they need to be honest the first thing they do is insult someone and then I feel dumb because I told them to be honest and that's how they honestly felt. I wouldn't know what to say back.
DeleteHonesty is the best policy. We don't gain anything in a friendship based on lies. Well said Ayana and Franczesco.
DeleteEverybody lies. Not one person can say they haven't lied before. It's human nature. I try not to lie because I'm really not smart enough to lie. A lie is a lot more complex than it sounds if you want it to work out. You have make sure the back story checks out and everything. I'm just not a fan of doing it even though I. I don't know why I continue to do it but. When I do lie its mostly to my friends, just lie to be funny. Eventually I tell them I'm kidding but no one thinks of it as a big deal. I think the only reason you absolutely have to lie is if you did something really bad and you have to cover your ass. Boom
ReplyDeleteNick, i do agree with what you have to say about lying is complex because you have to "cover your a**" this is very true. Lying is very dangerous because you can be caught so easily and someone can blow it all with one little slip up. The lies you said you tell are just little lies to your friends, why do you even lie? Why do you even want to get in the habit of lying over something that is so stupid, just to get a laugh?
DeleteNick, I agree with you because it is very easy to get caught in a lie. You feel bad and also stupid after also. I also agree that it is very hard to make a back story and it's just too much work just to lie to someone.
DeleteI agree. Lying is human nature and it can be hard to not lie in some situations. good post, good post.
DeleteBut, if you lie to cover up what you really did, aren't you actually leaving a bigger lie in the wake? You're not being true to you then.
DeleteLying is apart of life and yes I do lie. I mostly lie to my mom and dad because if I told them what the truth was they have a chance to contest it and it'll turn into a big lecture and no one wants to hear that. But when I lie it's not a big lie that turns into a string of lies it's just a little white lie. For example, il say I'm going to the park when I'm really going to the park. But I do believe lying is apart of human nature, people are insecure at times and don't want to put the truth out there for other people because unfortunately we live in a judgmental place and the truth can lead us to be judged. In some cases lying in necessary because the truth can hurt someone or ruin something. Meaning the truth could ruin a relationship, a business etc.
ReplyDeleteAnthony, I complete agree with you that no one wants to hear that long lecture from the parents. I also agree that the truth can ruin a relationship of some sort. That's why lying is sometimes necessary.
DeleteI also agree. Lying in good nature is sometimes something that you need to do. Lying to protect someone is my eyes is not necessarily a bad thing.
DeleteI'd be lying if I told you I don't lie (ha). Everybody lies. It's built inside of us and is part the human nature to manipulate our words and other peoples thoughts to our liking. We feel stronger when we have a situation in our control but feel worse after the lie is told, usually. I used to lie a lot more than I do now. When my parents ask where I'm going or something like that, I'm usually straight up with them. It's not worth it at this point because they know me so well. My dad always knows when I'm something's up. I see nothing wrong with lying for good intentions. For example, let's say you're hanging out with a friend and somebody else texts you to hang out but you don't want to seem like a bad guy and say you're busy, I don't think that's a terrible lie because it's for good intentions and you don't want to offend you're friend. A lie for bad intentions is really bad in my eyes.
ReplyDeleteI have the same deal. My parents know exactly when I lie and do something stupid. My friends, however, think I'm a pro. I don't see why I should lie to my parents because they are pretty open minded but when it comes to friends,I guess I throw in a little lie here and there.
DeleteI agree the only time when people should lie is to protect or not hurt someone else's feelings. Any other reasons to lie will just hurt people in the end and creat multiple problems.
DeleteI completely agree with you. I have many situations where I can't tell someone the truth because I might offend them. For example, my cousin made a dress last summer for herself and asked me how it looked. It wasn't really my style though. I knew that I would never wear it in my life.But I couldn't disappoint her so I told her it looked amazing. After she wore it, it actually did look amazing on her. Lying is okay if it is simple and silly. If it goes anything beyond that, then it is unacceptable.
ReplyDeleteI don't like lying because it doesn't make me feel good and it makes me feel guilty. I hate doing it and avoid lying as much as possible. One reason I might lie though is to protect someone's secret that they don't want anyone else to know. I really don't lie to my parents. There is really nothing for me to lie about. I get my homework done and try hard with everything I do. Also because I'm close with my mom she would know that I was lying, so there is no point in trying. I believe lying is a bad thing. When people lying it just creates problems and then the problems get bigger and bigger. I know that as humans it is in our "nature" to lie to protect ourselves but we shouldn't do it. It just creates more trouble in the world.
ReplyDeleteI like the point you make regarding how problems that have been solved through lies only become larger and larger. It takes so many lies to cover up one small lie that eventually people get overwhelmed. Telling the truth in the first place makes everything easier.
DeleteI agree with your idea of lying to protect a friend's secret. A simple "I don't know" sometimes can be the phrase that saves you from problems.
DeleteI lie all the time, everyone does. However, there's a big difference between sarcasm and subterfuge. Lying in any way that can harm others or unfairly avoid your own discipline will ultimately hurt you. That is why I restrain my own lying to pure sarcasm, which isn't really lying at all since its blatant appearance will easily reveal the truth behind the lie. The majority of my sarcasm is usually directed at my mom since I have a policy of "If asked about how an event went or details on an upcoming event by someone who really doesn't need to know, then truth is only a lack of imagination". Now when it comes to subterfuge, that is something I strongly reject even though it is human nature. It's unfortunately easy to get to the top in life by lying your way there, and many people take advantage of that. However, I believe that it's not necessary to lie in order to be successful. Lying is always a risk and integrity can never harm anyone. Unfortunately, mankind seems to undervalue truth.
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DeleteI agree with you about lying not being needed to successful. But I does seem to make things easier to get to the top if you do.
I used to lie all the time about stupid things like how I broke a bone, which I never have, until I realized that these people weren't worth me lying. I still lie today, but I don't do it to harm someone. Or so I try at least. Lying to "protect" sometime isn't necessary. If they were to ever find out, that's not protecting but harming. I'd rather be brutally honest about my friend's relationships than have them come to me weeks later after it's ended terribly. Lying, I think is human nature. Sadly the most frequent lie told is ''I'm fine'' when you're really not. I think this is because people ask if they're doing all right when they really don't care or they're glad they aren't the ones going through it.
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I agree that saying "I'm fine" is definitely one of the most common lies. I myself use it too. I can't remember what movie I heard this in, but one of the main characters said FINE stands for Freaking-out, Insecure, Neurotic, and Emotional, which I totally believe to be true.
DeleteYes, Just like everybody else. I lie in little small harmless ways and ways that could hurt or make other people mad. It all depends on the situation and I'm lying about, my parents, teachers, friends, almost everybody. It is just a bad habit not a trait that everybody has and it can be controlled. In today's community it seems like it is. Ye see it used every day but we also see a way to avoid it or to do the "right" thing according to the lair. But it is almost unavoidable in today's would.
ReplyDeletePersonally, I think that everyone lies to some degree, myself included. However, the only people I don't lie to are my family members. My mom always says that one of the most important things to can have with someone is trust, and if you lie, you break that trust, and once it's broken, it's really hard to gain back. However, I will lie to protect someone's feelings. For example, if I'm out shopping with friends, and the question, "does this make me look fat?" comes up, it's always best to say no no matter what. Other than that I don't like lying I'd rather be straight up with people because it's easier that way. If one lies, and gets caught, they have to keep inventing more lies to cover up the other lies, and it just gets really messy from there. Yes, I believe it to be human nature to lie. I think most people lie to protect their self-image or reputation. No one wants to be known as the girl who sleeps around or the guy that cheats. Lying isn't essential, but it is commonly used by people of all ages.
ReplyDeleteEverybody lies and sometimes it's for the better or for the worse. I lie when the time calls for it. what I lie about depends on what we're talking about. I don't like to lie to people older than me or that I respect cause I feel like I'm losing respect from them. But most times when I do lie it's for the good and you don't have to deal with everything if telling the
ReplyDeletetruth makes a scene. All humans have told a lie in their life time and it's human instinct to lie to keep themselves safe.
I think that everybody has lied at least once in their life time. Sometimes I lie about going to soccer practice. I will tell my coach that ill be there but then when the time comes, ill skip because I don't feel like going to practice. I try not to lie to my parents but sometimes I do and it doesn't feel god afterward. I think it is in our human nature to lie because a lot of times lying keeps people from getting in trouble. I don't think lying is necessary but we do it a lot of times because it gives us the results that we want.
ReplyDeleteAlex, I agree with everything you are saying. I believe that we lie to play it safe because we don't want anything bad to happen to us. I also feel bad after I lie whenever I lie to someone. I also agree that everyone still lies because it's what our whole society is doing around us.
DeleteAlex, I agree with most of the things you said. Lies could keep us from a lot of trouble but once the person you lied to finds, then you are in even more trouble. I agree with you that everybody lies and I'm not saying that you have to tell the truth all the time, but lies sometimes doesn't mean less trouble but more.
DeleteAlex, I agree with everything you are saying. I have been in the same boat as you when I lie to my parents and it doesn't feel good afterwards.
DeleteOf course I lie! A lot of times though, when I lie it's for the benefit of the people around me. Let's say my mom is stressed about me getting my homework done before bed time because she wants me to get a good night's sleep. If she asks if my homework is done right before I should be in bed, I say it is done, regardless of whether it actually is to give her the peace of mind. Even though I know that I'll be up for a while longer working on it. I'm sure I lie to other people too, but I thought that was a good example. Lying isn't necessary, but it can sure smooth over otherwise rough situations. As long as you follow through with what you say you're going to do, lies can be a useful tool. I think it is human nature to lie. Not just human nature, but the nature of most animals. One notable example is there is a gorilla named Koko that has a vocabulary of about 1000-words. Koko ripped her sink out of the wall in her habitat, when asked if she was the one that did it, she blamed it on the cat that lived in her habitat. Another study showed that people lie an average of 3 times in the first 10 minutes that they meet somebody, it's a safe bet to say that lying is in human nature.
ReplyDeleteI do not personally believe that anyone can claim to have never lied. It might have been a very small lie but it was a lie none the less. I have lied about almost anything. Sometimes it is for the best (or at least I thought so at the time) and sometimes it isn't but I still do it because it is easier than the truth. Lying is a way to have people believe only what you want them to know, but it always carries a risk of them finding out. And it is a risk that most people are willing to take.
ReplyDeleteYes I do lie sometimes. I think everyone does. I lie to my parents sometimes, not bad lies but mainly something small about school or if I finished my homework or not. I try my best not to lie to them and I make sure I don't lie to my friends. That could ruin a relationship between your friends or even family. I think it is natural for humans to lie because we are scared of the outcome to the truth. Lying is not necessary unless in VERY extreme situations. For example if it's a life or death situation and lying will save you or someone else from dying, then yes I think you should do what you feel is best. But day to day life, I think lying isn't necessary at all. It just always seems to cause trouble.
ReplyDeleteI agree Maisie. I think lying is generally wrong and will only hurt you and the ones around you in the future.
DeleteI do lie and when I lie I lie to my parents.And its usually about me doing thing like for example mom:"did u let out the dog" me:" of course why wouldn't I" or another example would be mom:" did u have homework" me:" yes but I did it before u got home." So I feel like I donf
ReplyDeleteT tell big lies I gust tell her what shrew wants to hear. I also know that it is wrong but I don't feel like changing because that would mean I have to be good and that's a problem for me and my teenage angst haha.no the actual reason for my lieing is that I don't think about it when I do it it just kind of comes out before I think about what im saying. I also feel like its humans to lie to get out of a sticky situation.but not for everybody.
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Yes, I do lie, I don't think is even possible for humans not to lie. Some times lies could be good but other times it could be bad. When I lie, I lie to my parents, friends, teachers etc... I usually lie about things that I feel I would get yelled at for. Such as lying about my grades at school, because I knew if my parents find out I'm doing bad in school, they will yell at me. Lying is human nature, when you feel unsafe or in a bad situation, you tend to lie in order to protect yourself. Sometimes lies are necessary, but sometimes aren't. In huck finn, huck has to lie to protect Jim, he lied to the slaves hunters saying his family had small pox so the slave hunters won't search the boat. This kind if lie in necessary because he is trying to safe Jim. Therefore, there are good lies and bad lies.
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Chris, I agree with some of the things that you are saying, but I think that lies are never good. Even if you get out of a bad situation by lying, it will only hurt yourself later when you find yourself lying excessively.
DeleteI know I have lied in the past, right now in the present, and eventually will lie sometime in the future. I hope I can stay away from lying as much as I can in the future because I have already dealt with the consequences it brings. I lie all the time to my parents whether it is about grades or things that generally don't even matter. I don't know why I so it sometimes. I don't think lying is necessary all the times, but I can I see why some people including myself lie about the little things in life.
ReplyDeleteI have lied in the past and i realized it doesn't get you anywhere in life. When you lie, the truth doesn't come out and that could really hurt you later in life. I have lied to my parents in the past about test grades and saying i did something but i really didn't. Yes, i think it is human nature because people say they need to lie to go further. I personally think you don't need to lie because it makes you look bad. I don't think it necessary because it could come back and get you later.
ReplyDeleteI dont really lie that much. I prefer to keep it real and tell the truth because then i dont feel bad afterward. If i do lie, its to sare someones feelings or to protect someone. An example would be lying about santa to my little sister, o lying about explicit stuff to her because shes too young to know some stuff. It is human nature to lie sometimes to avoid problems. It isnt really necessary, but it comes in handy sometimes (like the examples about my sister.
ReplyDeleteI think you're right about keeping it real because it real feels better than lying. I think human nature makes us lie to avoid problems, but other than that lying is a show of weakness. I always thought the whole lying about santa thing was silly, but you cannot go around ruining it for everybody.
DeleteIt is in our nature to want to lie, but it is also human nature to feel guilty after we lie. I am a very honest person, but I have lied to my parents about doing my homework, or something like that. In the end, lying does not get me anywhere, and I wind up having to do the work anyway. Lying is definitely unnecessary because if we were all honest, especially with ourselves, we could avoid many problems in our lives.
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ReplyDeleteYes I lie. I lie all the time. Lies when first thought about are bad, but when you think about it, lying has good things too. For example, if your wife is pregnant and she asks you how she looks, you're not going to say she looks fat, you'd say "You look great". People have to lie to keep from hurting someone's feelings. You can lie about anything really. I lie about whether I've cleaned my room, what time I get home at night, and many other things. Mainly I lie to my parents. No sugar coat. It is human nature to lie. Sometimes you don't even realize you've lied I till after you've said something. I think lying is necessary because maybe a truth can be too harsh for someone so you lie to make them feel better.
Yes, I do lie from time to time, but I try not to lie about important things as nothing good tends to come from it. I tend to lie about little things to my parents or friends so that I don't get asked unnecessary questions. For example, if I'm going to the movies with a friend my parents have never met, I'll probably just I'm going with someone else to avoid the inevitable "What's their name? How do you know them? Etc..." I think that it is definitely human nature to lie because everyone does it (maybe not literally everyone, but I've yet to meet a person who doesn't). I think lying is necessary because some people are too nosy and in order to give them what they want without giving away personal information, you need to tell a lie (like telling a telemarketer you don't speak english).
ReplyDeleteI lie only when I have to. I wouldn't lie otherwise. I can't really remember the lies I told, but I do think its human nature to lie. It depends though on the liver and the relationship they have with the person they are lying to.
ReplyDeleteAs everyone has previously stated, we all lie because it is human nature. Lying isn’t always necessarily a bad thing though. There are two very different types of lies. White lies are the type we most commonly use. For example, saying you like your friends’ favorite dress when you actually don’t. The other is hurtful lies that can destroy relationships by going behind someone’s back and hiding secrets. Small white lies, like my dress example, can be okay in certain situations because good intentions are at heart but once lying becomes repetitive and has the potential to come between relationships, it needs to stop. I consider myself a very honest person but sometimes I lie to my friends about my feelings because I don’t want to come off as rude or change the tone of the conversation. Other times I use white lies, like saying I’m busy all day when, in reality, I just don’t feel like getting out of bed and changing out of pajamas.
ReplyDeleteYes, money does influence our lives to a certain extent. We are raised with iPads and iPhones and many other devices that normal middle class kids in the U.S. Don't have. This influences in a great way because we have many more opportunities to learn. Being privileged means to have access to a wide range of resources. Although money does influence us, it doesn't change our expectations of our peers. We expect everyone to treat us with respect and they will be treated equally.
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Yes I do lie sometimes. I try to not lie but it is so hard not to. I usually lie about things that I don't want people to know about me. I could pretty much lie to anyone depending on the situations. However, I'm not a good lier either. I think lying is human nature because people don't want to show their weaknesses to others. Lying is definitely not necessary because that can bring your life down. You can loose respect from your family and friends too. Sometimes, people lie for goods too. Not to lie is a hard thing but we should not lie to each others.
Whether I like it or not (not), I'd say I do lie. Unfortunately I feel as though it's pretty frequently. Some lies will be to my parents when they ask about my grades. They do not know how to access the grades online, therefore I may tell them I got an A on the history test when in reality I got a C. I li e to my sister when she asks if I took an article of her clothing that morning and I sneak out of the house to school before she can catch me wearing it. I don't lie to my friends often unless there is something that would sincerely hurt them. I am very bad at breaking bad news to people so I put it off as much as I can until someone else can for them. I feel like lying isn't very necessary, it shouldn't be at least. We should be able to be honest with everyone we are close to no matter what the result of the truth is, because in the end, all honesty will be revealed.
ReplyDeleteI believe it's nearly impossible for people to lie, no matter how hard we try. Sometimes in life, we need to lie to help someone else, to help ourselves, or because we like to. For me, I try not to lie but it's hard, especially with my parents. I used to lie a lot about where I was and what I was doing but I've gotten better about being honest with these things. As a reaction, my parents appreciate the honesty and with that we've become closer. The same goes with my friends, but sometimes you have to to protect them from hearing something bad about them or something from hurting them. It's human nature to protect, but not to lie. Some are better than others, mainly because it's a learned behavior.
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